“The term “patriarchal violence” is useful because unlike the more accepted phrase “domestic violence” it continually reminds the listener that violence in the home is connected to sexism and sexist thinking, to male domination.”
Lots of women writers have been publishing for decades, and many of them have been and are well-regarded and well-published. I think gender bias exists in forms that are more discreet and ingrained. I’ve had an incredible experience with Wild. It’s been received warmly by critics and readers alike. But a running theme has been how many men have said something along the lines of, “Wow, I was so surprised I loved your book, because I’m a man.” These men mean no harm—I don’t take those comments personally—and yet the fact that they were surprised that they loved a book by and about a woman is an indication of the sexism women writers are up against every time they write. It tells me that women writers are still perceived as less capable than men writers of telling the big universal human story.
— Cheryl Strayed. This whole conversation she had with Elissa Bassist is inspiring and helpful and fantastic. (via lindsayzoladz)
And then I debated whether or not to put it on Tumblr…but I decided it was important. Because in my own way, I can (unfortunately) point out exactly what is wrong with men when they don’t realize how hard it is to be a woman. How we do not have equal…
One of the worst ways to stop someone from telling sexist jokes is to tell him the joke isn’t funny. He’ll assume that you’re humorless and that he needs to save the good stuff for the right audience. If you really want someone to stop telling sexist jokes, you need to tell him, “I don’t get it” and then step back as he tries not to say, “It’s funny because women are stupid.
— If This Isn’t From a Book, It Should Be (via leukocytes)
i don’t understand why i wasn’t following this guy a thousand years ago
A great video which also shows from a guy’s perspective on the issue
And there it is.
This. I’m so tired of being forced to resent my own gender for the shit other men say and do.
This is so amazing. He gets it.
This guy… should be the Internet’s Dad. He should be the Dad of the Internet and he should yell at us all the time super eloquently and teach us actual grown-up real world things
Harassment and bullying aren’t excusable simply because they’re on the internet, and it’s irresponsible to dismiss it simply because it’s not happening to you. And, as he says, if you disagree with Anita Sarkeesian’s views, that’s a different debate, and not one that you should be trying to inject into an entirely different dialogue.